There are 26 letters in the English alphabet. The countless sentence structures one can create from these letters are greater than the sands of the sea. Great beauty can emerge from the interaction of these letters combined with human ingenuity. One can say I walked through a field feeling fed up, or you can make your words do a lyrical iambic tetrameter prance as in I wandered lonely as a cloud as Wordsworth put it.
So, what am I saying, that we should all go around talking like William Wordsworth or Anne of Green Gables? Of course not. But let me ask you to conduct an experiment. Put on a television programme such as a soap opera or a cartoon. Write down a few sentences from them. Do you notice anything?
It may be a high proportion of the words and sentences are aggressive, hostile, and toxic? Does that not strike you as odd, considering the beauty that language can create?
Hostile words tell you much about the person. On the other hand, there is this lovely thought that was carved on stone centuries ago:
The tongue that heals is a tree of life, but a devious tongue breaks the spirit Proverbs 15:4 CSB
Interesting, don’t you think? How many friends have fallen out over the tongue? How many friendships have been lost? How many acts of violence and wars have begun because of the tongue? How many ‘good days’ have been lost due to careless babble?
There is no law regarding the use of kind words. Think about it this way, how would you feel if certain phrases you use were spoken to you? Others will appreciate it if you choose words carefully. Its fundamental to winning friends and influencing people.
Whoever guards his mouth preserves his life; he who opens wide his lips comes to ruin (Prov. 13:3).
Scripture quotations marked CSB have been taken from the Christian Standard Bible®, Copyright © 2017 by Holman Bible Publishers. Used by permission. Christian Standard Bible® and CSB® are federally registered trademarks of Holman Bible Publishers.